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How to Approach a Girl in the Street and Get Her Number

How to Approach a Girl in the Street and Get Her Number

Most important to understand when approaching a girl is that it is also a skill like any other and it can be learned and trained. You need to focus on developing your skills rather than getting to know a new girlfriend. I will teach you how to approach a girl in the street and get her number step by step. I will also introduce you to some of the methods and openings I personally use on the street. If you use these steps, I guarantee you will in 90% of cases succeed by approaching a Girl and getting her phone number.

How to get started?

When you start talking to a group of girls, or just a one girl, your immediate goal is to get to the point of social acceptance. So you need to know how to approach the girl and open the conversation. That moment comes when the girl starts enjoying the conversation with you and wishes to continue it. When this happens, you have successfully opened the group. It is easy to find out when this happens because there will be interest indicators that I will explain how to recognize it below in the text. Also remember that confidence is also the key factor in this, but that topic I have described separately and you can read it HERE

Three Second Rule:

Before you notice a girl on the street that you want to approach, you have to use the Three second rule. A woman usually perceives in a mile where a man collects courage to approach her, which can reduce your value in her eyes. This rule is used so when you spot her, you immediately go to her and do the opening. Think of your opening, even before you appear at the “public place.” Access must be uncompromising, and that’s what the prepared man trains. Immediately decide to practice and adopt it. Just open the girl you see and open it before your fear overwhelmed your desire to meet that girl.

Keep in mind that no one else knows who you already know and who you do not know. In fact, it looks as if you already know her – after all, you’ve approach and immediately come across her. Notice the ease with which companies are opening up to you when you have this level of social confirmation. You do not always have a target to enjoy interaction with people.

1. Start With Opening:

Opening is a short story or statement that is used to gain the attention of the group of girls, or just a one girl and deserve its acceptance. It’s not good to introduce and open with the statement “Hey, I’m Mario,” because it is not creative and because sometimes we have to take the whole group’s attention. Beautiful women never walk the street out alone,but in the group. So you need to have a prepared opening line you will use. Therefore, my recommendation is when you spot a girl, use the three second rule and prepare an opening line so the fear of approaching does not overpower you. Then it’s all vain, she noticed you and it might not work. I will give you also some of my examples with “Opening lines” that I use on girls on street.

Example 1:

ME: Congratulations!
SHE: What, when, where?
ME: You passed my first test – you look interesting that made me join you and open this conversation. Now I want to see if you’re funny also. What is your name?

This dialogue will not make a woman like a magical wand warm up for you, and you’re right. It is not even planned. Of course, it is designed to be fun and spontaneous. So here are 5 more examples that I use with a girls. You don’t need to use my openings, you can simply create your owns or modify them slightly, it is your choice.

Example 2:

• You can’t look at me like that and say nothing. What is your name? 
• Hey sorry, I’m new here and I wonder if you could help me find something ..( point your finger in some direction) I’m looking for… looking for your phone number, and I think I’ll be lost all day if you do not help me. 
• ME: Hey, do you know where the library is here? (it does not matter if she knows or not)
  SHE:  (wait for her answer)
  ME: “Actually I’m lying, I just thought how sweet you are and I wanted to start a conversation  with you”

Example 3:

• ME: “Can you do me a favour?”
   SHE: what do you need?
   ME: Can you tell your boyfriend how happy he is!
   SHE: (if she says she has no boyfriend)
   ME: I do not believe you, you are too sweet to be single
           (do not ask her for the number) just give her the phone to type it. 
• ME: “Sorry, do you know where Starbucks is?”
   SHE: (she answers)
   ME: “Actually, I thought how sweet you are, I don’t even look for Starbucks “

After you’ve made the opening, 70% of the work is done. First of all, you passed the hardest part. Then, once you approach the girl and make your opening, you need also to create relaxation. The most important thing about that is when you talk to a girl, you do NOT ask her questions, you only comment on things. By questioning her, you will only get her away from you because she will feel threatened. In the next chapter we will clarify it all. I will also give you a few examples below how to do it correctly.

2. Conversation and Relaxation:

After you’ve done with opening, the hardest part is over. Start a brief introduction part of the conversation, and continue that conversation. Of course, you are not expected to start a topic in the middle of a street, park or a campus, rather than briefly acquaint yourself and exchange phone numbers, and after arrange a real meeting later to know her better.

Now you have also the opportunity to build a relaxed conversation and trust with it by luring her to further invest in conversation. And that’s what girls actually love – that conversation runs relaxed and spontaneous. If you didn’t had experience so far to lead a normal, fun, and natural conversation, it’s time to start. You also need to find out if she is even interested in you.

Her Interest in You

Finally, when interest is created, it is just the beginning of the game. In fact, it is a common mistake to think that attraction alone and opening wins the girl. Without investment, attraction is just a fog. In this way, her reward is related to her investment. Here motions give way to a man who has a great deal of value. And emotionally, she wants you to win her, wants to feel important to her, not just as an attractive woman, but also as a special woman. When you can give a woman a try to win your liking and when you can effectively show yours, then you’ve mastered Phase 2 and are ready to go for closing.

I’ll show you some of my types of conversations that I use with a girls when I pick them up in the street. Remember the conversations must be very short and humorous so that you can get to phase 3 and closing. These are just some of Funny and Cheesy Pick Up Lines I use:


1. Except you’re beautiful what else do you do in life?
2. Can I follow you? Cause my mom told me to follow my dreams.
3. I think I’ll buy a polar bear. So that I can break the Ice between us.
4. You know my doctor says I miss the vitamin “you”
5. On a scale of 1 to 10 … you are 9 … and I am the 1 you need.
6. Do you believe in love at first sight or should I walk all over again?
7. Have you always been so sweet or did you have to work on it?
8. I should call you Google because you’ve got everything I’m searching for.
9. I think I like you, but I can not be sure until I kiss you …
10. Are you a magician? Because whenever I look at you, everything around medisappears.

First of all, your conversation should not take longer than 5 minutes, from opening her until taking her number. So use some of these funny and cheesy lines between conversations so you create a relaxed atmosphere. The most important thing of all this is: Good game is more important than taking a girls phone number. Good game leads to secure phone number. That means you’ll stay in her head and the day after and she will remember you. After a very brief introduction and conversation, now you must close this conversation and take her phone number and arrange the next meeting.

3. Closing:

This is the last and most important phase you have to do. So how to do this correctly? As you speak, you say, “It would be good to talk with you another time again,”and then, if she agrees, pick up your phone as if she asked for it, saying, “Give me your number.” When there is something among you, things seem to flow naturally. Instead of having to make a phone call to her in a clever way,concentrate on creating the chemistry. Remember, the courtship goes from getting to know right until sex, not about getting to know the phone number. Picking the number is not a bridge, because the bridge must have two sides. The number has no secured side.

So, how to make closing? Now you need to close the game and spontaneously take her phone number. Think about how to do it. These are some examples of how I use closing before taking phone number.


1.  I know you’re busy today, but can you add me to your “to-do list”?
2.  I have to buy some things in town tomorrow. Come on, make me a company.
3.  On Thursday I’m going to Cinema to watch an excellent movie. I wish you join me. Let us exchange the numbers.

Notice that you already have a reason to see her again. And if you have taken the number, you would be in a position where you would see her again. Good game is more important than taking phone number, good game leads to secure phone number. These are some openings I use directly to take the phone number.


1. We have a lot in common, come on, give me your phone number?
2. Can I Get Your Phone Number?
3. I should now take your phone number ..
4. What smart, attractive, young man like me doing here without your number?
5. Maybe you can help me. I forgot password of my account, and when I click on the “lost password” It says: “Ana’s phone number”. I think you can help me with that?

Remember that you will also find yourself in the situation when the girl will reject you for whatever reason. So how to react in that case and how to set yourself?

How to Deal With Rejections:

Remember, do not take anything personally, it is just a game! just smile and say hello. If you want to leave with style, these are some of examples that I use before leaving.

SHE:  I have a boyfriend. 
ME:  I was afraid you would say that. Nice to meet you tho. (show confidence
ME: You look like a girl who could have 2 boyfriends (show confidence) 

She Refuse to Give you Phone Number:
ME:  I do not even need your phone number. We are soulmates, the souls will get together already.

If She tells that you are Crazy
ME: I’m not crazy, unless that’s a good thing then I’m crazy.

Remember That Nothing Matters

There will always be a certain percentage drop. Girls are unreliable creatures. They do not only burn you – they burn their friends and family, and often themselves. There is a random component in the game. Sometimes the girl you really liked will not be able to call back. Sometimes a girl who has not been so sure will suddenly be ready to come to you. You never know! You can not even get a girl on the phone.Very important. There may have been some remorse. Maybe her friends answered her. Design a meeting plan (or several plans) that you can apply over and over again in practice. Incorporate useful logistics into the meeting.

In all this, these three things are important: Opening,Conversation and relaxation and finally closing. All three things must be successful in order to take her phone number.

Brief summary

1. Respect the three second rule.
2. Exercise performance; including body language, voice, cheerful attitude and strong frame.
3. Forget all expectation of outcome and just enjoy the process as in a new hobby.
4. Do not be selective with girls – it’s all just exercise.
5. Practice to develop multiple types of conversations.
6. Think of a short introductory text about what you will talk about after opening.
8. Work on each group as much as you can, pure to practice.
9. Be free to take phone numbers just for exercise.

Learn More

If you are interested in learning more about dating, then consider checking out this book about dating on Amazon.